Those of us with daughters to raise in the current climate are, understandably, terrified. Just turning on the TV is hazardous. The hottest shows on television featuring today’s role models for girls include “Holly’s World,” featuring Hugh Hefner’s ex-girlfriend who, while sweet as apple pie, must have been abandoned by any positive male influence in her life. As a result she ended up sleeping with “Daddy” in the form of a misogynistic octogenarian and making a living in the porn industry.
Then there are the Kardashian sisters, famous for absolutely nothing but shallow materialism and dating (or getting knocked up by) sports stars. The music industry is full of sad stories of young girls being eaten alive by the business like Miley Cyrus, whose father abdicated his roll of protecting his young in exchange for money. Considering Miley has been on YouTube sucking down bong hits, it doesn’t seem to be working out too well for him.
So what does work? Who are some young girls we can look at and direct our daughters to follow in their footsteps instead of the ever-vapid Girls Gone Wild kind? Meet Hannah and Regis Giles. Both of them have been featured in my previous columns for their accomplishments. Hannah is a young journalist who took on ACORN and went undercover as a prostitute and caught them on video offering to help her set up a bordello with 14-year-old illegal sex slaves.
Regis is just beginning her career as a conservationist and hunter and advocate for women’s right to bear arms. She will be starring in her own show soon called “Primal Urge” which will follow her on her hunts. She started her own company called Girls Just Wanna Have Guns where she raises awareness of violence against women and advocates for women to become trained in the use of firearms and to take self-defense training.
The obvious question that surfaces when reading about these two is, what the heck kind of parents did they have? And can they teach me how to get results like that? Luckily, their father Doug Giles has written a how-to guide called “Raising Righteous and Rowdy Girls” Giving me hope for today’s parents, it is the number one book on Amazon right now in the parenting category.
Giles is a pastor, a political commentator, a columnist, an artist and a radio talk show host, but above all these titles, he puts his role as father first. His fatherly doting shows in his daughters. Giles supposes that no matter how good a mother girls have, they will be sorely at a disadvantage without an involved and caring father. In his opening chapter he doles out harsh words for the absent (whether physically or emotionally) father.
[I]f you’re a dilatory dad who is obsessed with a mistress, concerned only with cash and who joneses on keeping up with the Joneses, this book is going to be harder to swallow than stewed rat is to Martha Stewart
With Giles’ biting sense of humor, this book flies by at breakneck speed but dispenses great advice. The Giles girls both know Jiu Jitsu in case they should ever be targeted as a victim by some thug or over-interested suitor. In the chapter “Teach Your Daughter
How to Fight,” Giles reminds us that women are targets of violence in alarming numbers.
“One rape or sexual assault occurs every two minutes. “
I was watching the news last night and saw a story of a serial murderer who had murdered two young girls and tried for a third but she had martial arts training and managed to smash his nose and get away. She later was the star witness in identifying him and putting him in prison for life. She could have been just another victim, but someone in her life thought it would be a good idea for her to get some life-saving skills. They were right.
In another chapter, Giles stresses the importance of teaching our daughters how to rebel against a sick culture.
“On Planet Secularity where ‘truth is dead,’ muscle-power becomes the operative standard of speech. The results are cultic conformity and group bullying. The chief orgasmic goal of the secular sellers of societal swill is to create a rock-solid environment of political correctness-with the intended end being the cowing of people who might rustle their feathers by not parroting their already tried (and been found wanting) opinions. They can’t allow people to speak and think freely because the realist and the truth dealer would pee on their little party.”
This is an issue any traditional kid is going to face. It’s best to prepare them for it early. Conservatism is the new rebellion. Ain’t it grand? “The man” is now the 60′s free-love hippies who used to encourage the young to reject authority. It’s a sweet irony that the authority that is in need of rejecting are the authors of that fun theory.
In one of my favorite chapters, “Teach Your Daughter to Despise Anti-Intellectualism,” Giles excoriates the modern idea of what it means to be female.
“Have we, as a nation, become completely fascinated with stupid chicks-or what?!? Dad, if you want to have our society’s spotlight shine down on your daughter for no real reason other than she’s an idiotic, drunken narcissistic chick, well then…this is her window of opportunity!”
The culture is awash in anti-female feminism. To combat the culture rot, Giles provides a thorough reading list that will help fight off the MTV influence. When your girls are old enough to read, installing reading time every day to replace some of those TV hours will go a long way to working out their minds into free-thinking muscles. (Pre-reading days…well, Barney’s pretty cool.)
Perhaps the most compelling and controversial chapter is “Teach Your Daughter How to Party.” I think most people would be surprised a pastor would advocate for teaching your kids how to drink.
“The funny thing is that the majority of Christian ministers who are fierce about not drinking are not so vociferous about the ton of food they eat, or the gossip they spread, or the unforgiveness they harbor, or the many hours they spend online viewing porn.
And Giles has biblical precedent for his views.
“Both the Old and the New Testament are rife with celebration (feasts) wherein alcohol was involved. Alcohol was a part of the God-ordained festivities. And it wasn’t for medicinal purposes, or because the water was rancid and they didn’t have any Evian, and it wasn’t a non-alcoholic grape drink like Welch’s or Juicy Juice. It was a buzz-generating drink just like the stuff we drink today. Period. End of discussion. Deal with it.”
And then there is Christ’s own involvement in the making of wine…
“[O]ne of the first snapshots we have of Christ in John’s gospel is Jesus, at the wedding feast of Cana, turning water into wine. Now you do know that he could have turned water into anything he wanted to…He could have turned water into soy milk, orange juice, a banana smoothie, a wheat grass shake, Yoo-Hoo, Coca-Cola, Dr. Pepper, Mountain Dew, a No Foam Half-Decaf Skinny Latte, or a Red Bull-but He didn’t. He chose wine.”
Giles gives straightforward advice to his daughters for party etiquette. Advice that if Natalie Holloway had followed she would still be alive today, like never ever drink anything anyone has handed to you, require the bartender to open your beer in front of you and keep an eye on your drink at all times. Don’t have more than two drinks, don’t play drinking games, don’t forget to eat and drink your water and have a buddy who will stick with you and will refuse to allow you to wander off with a Jorhan van der Sloot wannabe.
And if you’re looking for a good laugh and some sure-fire ways to scare away unwanted suitors for your daughters, Giles ends his book with a hilarious application for dating his girls that I would encourage you to print out and hand out at will when any baggy-panted pimply teen boy comes to your door inquiring about your princess.
This book is not to be missed for any parent of girls, especially dads. Father’s day is right around the corner and this book is the best gift any dad and daughter could share.
Join me tonight! Sunday 10 pm CST on BlogTalkRadio for an interview with Doug Giles and find out more important tips that may save your daughter’s life.